Possibility 2 is a pretty dark situation for your friend, but it can actually be fun for you. Sometimes the skit is that you both burst out laughing at everything constantly. This type of person hates earnest people because someone being earnest dares him to come out from under his ironic safety blanket and let the sun touch his face, and no fucking thanks.
The key here is that the two of you must be on a team at all times while interacting. The only comfortable mode for this person is bonding with you by building a little pedestal for you both to stand on while you criticize everyone else. What these all have in common is the friend has tall walls up, at least toward you, and so she builds a little skit for you two to hang out in to make sure any authentic connection can be avoided.
Sometimes that person only does this out of her own social anxiety and can become a great, authentic friend if you can just stomp through the ice. Ya know? Most old friends fall somewhat into this category, but a true Historical Friend is someone you absolutely would not be friends with if you met them today. Throughout childhood and much of young adulthood, most people your age are in the same life stage as you are. But when it comes to advancing into full adulthood, people do so at widely varying paces, which leads to certain friends suddenly having totally different existences from one another.
Anyone within three years of 30 has a bunch of these going on. Some people have become Future year-olds, while others are super into being Previous year-olds. At some point, things will start to meld together again, but being ish is the friendship equivalent of a kid going through an awkward pubescent stage. There are darker, more permanent Non-Parallel Life Path situations. The Frenemy roots very hard against you.
Those are bad emotions, but they can exist in people who are still good friends. You and the Frenemy usually go way back, have a very deep friendship, and the trouble probably started a long time ago. A little less dark but no less harmful is a bully situation where a friend sees some weakness or vulnerability in you and she enjoys prodding you there either for sadistic reasons or to prop herself up. Whatever the reason, if you have a Frenemy in your life, kick her toxic ass off your mountain, or at least kick her down the mountain— just get her off of Tier 1.
People are often delighted to hear from an old buddy out of the blue.
After all, you did once get along with them well enough to become friends. That doesn't happen with just anyone. Who knows? Maybe they were considering getting back in touch with you, but felt awkward about it as themselves. Like I said, there's no real trick to getting back in touch with someone.
Here are some ways you could do it: Send them an email or social network message saying it's been a while and asking them what they're up to these days. Give them a quick, not overly general, update on what's been keeping you busy. If you feel too uncomfortable with straight up saying, "Long time, no talk, what's new? If you're both on a social network with a chat system, like Facebook, see if you can catch them when they're logged in and send them a chat message.
Give them a call and chat in person, if you don't get too anxious about talking on the phone. Go somewhere where know you'll run into them in person. Of course, I'm assuming you want to get back in touch so you can start hanging out with them again.
That means you have to invite them out. Again, you just have to ask, by saying something like, "Do you want to grab a drink and catch up? As always, if they say they can't make it, but don't reject you outright, you can try again one or two more times during the next few weeks. Maybe you really did catch them at a hectic time and they'll be more free to get together down the road. You can also try varying the event you invite them to.
For example, a guy who's become busy with a new family may not be able to meet you for drinks on Saturday night, but may be free to have lunch during the workweek. Like I said, if you get back in touch with an old friend you need to be prepared for it to go either way, but there are some factors that will affect how open they'll be to restarting the relationship.
You likely won't know where you stand on many of these ahead of time, but they'll still play a part. People get busy, especially once they hit their mid-twenties and careers, serious relationships, and families arrive on the scene. You may drop an old friend a line and they'll think, "Ah, it's great that Li wants to hang out again, but my plate is already full. I don't have time to fit catch-up coffee dates into the equation. And as much as I liked it when you saw each other frequently, I've already done fine without them for this long They finally have time to see their old mates.
Friends are more likely to fall out of touch if they're not able to hang out at least semi-regularly.
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Just say it. You might have chilled with the girls who were on your field hockey team, and befriended the guy who sat next to you in class. The link below will take you to a copy of oldfriends. After communicating long-distance via phone and email for a couple of months, they decided to get together in person, meeting halfway in Phoenix. Nothing's really too different, even after spending some time away at college. Fried also suggests avoiding scheduling your meeting during stressful times, such as when you have an impending deadline or significant family obligations. Eric Schlosser.
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